Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Monday, November 26, 2007
Sunday, November 25, 2007
I don't know if you've wondered this question. But I thought I'd address it anyway. I really want to talk openly about us and share this journey with you, cause i think we need you as friends and family, and also because i feel like this is a beautiful thing we are doing, not something to tip toe around.
So, yes, technically we can have more biological children. We have no fertility problems. I do however, have hard pregnancies. I met with my OB about a year ago (he's a strong Christian) and he said that I have a lot of complicating factors that make me 'high risk' for carrying a baby. (and quite frankly, i was relieved, because I did not feel up for all the poking and pricking and complications). He said that God can work miracles, absolutely, but we also need to be wise.
We thought about being 'done' with having children. Two was comfortable and easy (we could still play man to man). But when it came down to it, we both wanted a family of 3 or 4 children, with multiple kids and several siblings. Things felt small, too easy, and we felt something was 'missing.' R was getting bigger and we were finding ourselves wanting another little one.
We had already been talking about adoption since R's complicated pregnancy & birth. We think there are millions of children out there that need a loving home, and we have love to give. We think that if we are going to encourage birthmothers not to abort their children, then we need to be willing to offer, we'll love your birthchild as our own.
We have a beautiful network of adoptive families. Many of our friends have adopted. Their children are amazing and gorgeous and fun and they make life rich, these little nuggets.
So we started the adoption journey. This is how we will grow our family. I feel like I'm pregnant. Truly, that is how I feel. I feel excited and nervous. I often dream about him. I thought about his life this Thanksgiving, if he is born yet, and what care he is receiving. I considered the gift of his life and what he will be to our family and to me, his mother. I think about his birthmother and what her journey must be. I hope I can meet her in Ethiopia.
Friday, November 23, 2007
OK, so this thanksgiving I'm thankful for:
1. God's provision. We always have our fundamental needs met. Over half of the world doesn't have a toilet in their house, and we have three.
2. My husband. He is my best friend and I really respect him and his opinion.
3. My kids. They're amazing.
4. My new Ethiopian nugget, who may or not have been born by now, who God has perfectly selected to join our family sometime next year.
5. FREEDOM. As a woman, as a Christian, this country is THE best in the world.
6. the internet. when I lost my connection a few days ago, i felt sooo lost. because some of my closest friends are e-mail buddies (people like Susan, who live in Germany, or my mom, or Kelly, or Christy, and even keeping in touch with all of you via blogging . . . it is really a community of friends for me.
7. music. it makes my heart happy.
8. family. two sides of the family who love God. a rich Christian heritage for my children.
9. mobility. thank you lord that i can move and run about and play.
10. creation. oh the wonder of the mountains, the smell of pine, pinecones, sitting on a dock at a lake, fresh air, a moving river, and a clear sky of stars.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
"OK, mom," she says with a whimper.
"And Rey, when you have a happy heart and feel better, please come out and I can't wait to see you."
"OK, mom," she says.
I thought about this scenario a LOT yesterday as I had a no-good-very-bad-horrible day. Where is my whining room? Where can mommy go when she needs to reboot and get a pick me up?
In the old days of working in a professional office, if you find your day rotton and grumpy, what do you do? You tell your assistant, "Hold my calls." You cancel your meeting. You shut the door of your office and say "No interruptions."
But where do I go yesterday when, after ripping open our living room wall to take care of a 'mold' problem, we discover subterrainian termites, to my wireless router breaking, to Time Warner Cable telling me to drive to their office to get a new one (only to get there and have them tell me they only have modems, they don't have routers), to finding out one of my dearest friends is not just 'maybe' moving, she is DEFINITELY moving (yes, Kristy), to Rey's fish committing suicide (it jumped out of the bowl and we found him on the counter--are things sooo bad little beta that you just gave up on life?). I just wanted a whining room to sit with my attitude and feelings.
PRAISE GOD that my kids were wonderful, and that I have an awesome neighbor who took in our family for the afternoon & made us dinner (since our home was under construction). And that I had a nice talk with my mom, who is always encouraging on yuckie days.
What do you do, oh my beloved 4 readers, when you have a grumpy day? How do you 'get a happy heart?'
btw, I'm torn because I think to 'get a happy heart' we can sometimes gloss over very real feelings of disappointment, and I don't think that is good to dismiss or bury things too quickly. BUT I also think attitude is a choice, and you have to, for the sake of your children, pick up your bootstraps and model perseverance and joy amidst trial.
Friday, November 16, 2007
One in ten children die before their first birthday•
One in six children die before their fifth birthday•
44% of the population of Ethiopia is under 15 years old•
60% of children in Ethiopia are stunted because of malnutrition•
The median age in Ethiopia is 17.8 years•
1.5 million people are infected with AIDS (6th highest in the world)•
720,000 children have been orphaned by AIDS alone, and there are 4.6 million orphans in Ethiopia.•
Per capita, Ethiopia receives less aid than any country in Africa•
In the 90s the population (3%) grew faster than food production (2.2%)•
Drought struck the country from 2000-2002 (first year no crops, second year no seeds, third year no animals)•
Half the children in Ethiopia will never attend school. 88% will never attend secondary school.•
Coffee prices (Ethiopia’s only major export) fell 40-60% from 1998-2002.•
Ethiopia’s doctor to children ratio is 1 to 24,000.•
In 1993, after 30 long years of war, Eritrea broke from Ethiopia and became an independent nation leaving Ethiopia landlocked without any major seafaring ports.
Speaking of channeling energy, we've enjoyed planting a vegetable garden on our side yard the last two days. We have planted cauliflower, lettuce, carrots, green onions, yellow onions, garlic, tomatoes, and a bunch of herbs. I suppose a nice thing about the California climate is that I can plant in November and there is minimal risk. I chuckle at the 'sow the seeds after the last frost" sineage on the seedling instructions.
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Monday, November 12, 2007
Saturday, November 10, 2007
I highly recommend Adoption Alliance of San Diego as a homestudy agency. They are great people.
As far as the rest, we are working on completing our dossier. This is a little more complicated than the homestudy, but again, not nearly as 'bad' as I expected. We have a few more things to do for it.
-notarize a Power of Attorney and have the notarized PoA authenticated by the State.
-complete our adoption education videos (we have 2 more left) and take an online test.
-pick up our criminal background check (should be done on Tuesday)
and i think that is all??!! Well, not ALL, but it means we have all the 'gathering' of the dossier done. :) ah, progress!!
thank you for your prayers & well wishes! keep 'em comin'!
Thursday, November 08, 2007
I drank 4 of these yesterday. Each one is 33 oz. That means I drank 132 oz of water yesterday. Is that possible?? That equates to over 16 cups of water?!
How much water do YOU drink in a given day? are you a bottled water snob, or a brita filter addict, or a tap water authority?
Tuesday, November 06, 2007
R has officially moved to a big girl bed. We're holding off on bunk beds until baby arrives. She LOVES it. she is getting SO big. i just love her easy going, happy spirit.
-Z story (this is so classic him). Today I got a coffee. It cost 1.50. Z asked if he could buy it. He hands the $5 to the cashier and says, "you owe me 3.50" and stands there with his hand open waiting.
-we LOVE frog and toad. do tell me your favorite children's books (for kinder years) and i will use my handy dandy new library card to request it from the Tustin Library.
-mommy spent her afternoon at work (my paid profession, that is) brainstorming tag lines. tag lines. for 4 hrs.
-i had a very productive day and it feels good! :)
-two more friends announced their moving out of state. it leaves me pretty bummed. (but i'm trying not to make their choice about me, cause i completely understand where they're coming from)
-does anyone else think the new Hiro story line (HEROES) stinks? i just can't get into what is going on with him.
Monday, November 05, 2007
More as it comes!!
Sunday, November 04, 2007
Which leads to the questions (as only Z could ask):
-Why was Yankee Doodle going into town?
-Was he on his way to pick up something?
-Why did he put a feather in his hat?
-Why did he call the feather macaroni?
So I looked it up! (jeez, i love the internet).
"The music and words go back to 15th century Holland, as a harvesting song that began, "Yanker dudel doodle down." In England, the tune was used for a nursery rhyme -- "Lucy Locket". Later, the song poked fun of Puritan church leader Oliver Cromwell, because "Yankee" was a mispronunciation of the word "English" in the Dutch language, and "doodle" refers to a dumb person. But it was a British surgeon, Richard Schuckburgh, who wrote the words we know today that ridiculed the ragtag colonists fighting in the French and Indian War.
Soon after, the British troops used the song to make fun of the American colonists during the Revolutionary War. Yet it became the American colonists' rallying anthem for that war. At the time the Revolutionary War began, Americans were proud to be called yankees and "Yankee Doodle" became the colonists most stirring anthem of defiance and liberty.
During Pre-Revolutionary America when the song "Yankee Doodle" first became popular, the word macaroni in the line that reads "stuck a feather in his hat and called it macaroni" didn't refer to the pasta. Instead, "Macaroni" was a fancy and overdressed ("dandy") style of Italian clothing widely imitated in England at the time. So by just sticking a feather in his cap and calling himself a "Macaroni", Yankee Doodle was proudly proclaiming himself to be a country bumpkin (an awkward and unsophisticated person), because that was how the English regarded most colonials at that time."
Thursday, November 01, 2007
Those that know me well know I prefer to find small coffee houses/stores where I can make myself at home. I tend to go to these places over and over again. I like getting to know the people behind the counter. I like the sameness. I like being a 'regular' in a small place, and that feeling of being known.
So this is why i like Cafe Luca:
-the yummy gelato and new flavors every day
-the 12 seater high tabletop with wifi and outlets
-the customers wearing burees
-the 6 ft 6 inch college student behind the counter
-the way they box their teas
-the back door entrance that hardly anyone uses, unless they're regulars like moi
-the clanking wood floors
-7 flavors of ice tea
-that most everyone in that place is artisan, sort of. i mean they aren't starbucks business suits. they're artsy musician looking with funky hair, shiny shoes, and genuinely happy people.
do you have a regular place you like to go? and what makes it your happy place?