The mother of all lies: {in which I release you from owning your child’s behavior}

Off and on I’ve believed this lie about mothering: She is a “good” mother if she has “good” children. Admit it … you know you’ve thought it too.  🙂 Her kids are fantastic.  She must be a great mom.   Or conversely … Her kids are a nightmare.  She’s probably asleep in the minivan.   … Read More

The Good Way

Stand at the crossroads and look;  Ask where the good way is, and walk in it, And you will find rest for your souls.   Jeremiah 6:16 ### Yesterday I wrote two two-page papers {I’m a frosh seminary student}: one on the current state of my prayer life, and the other on my understanding of … Read More

When I Was Nine

When I Was Nine

When I was nine (the age of my oldest, Pumpkin) … I rode my bike everywhere, alone.  Everywhere.  Across the busy street, round the corner, across another busy street, over a few speed bumps, arriving at a 7-11 where I’d buy more bubble gum than one could consume — grape Big League Chew was my … Read More

Without Roadmaps: The Idea Camp: Human Care

Without Roadmaps: The Idea Camp: Human Care

We were sipping coffee when she told me, “You know what you would LOVE.  You would LOVE the Idea Camp.” I’m all ears, because she knows introverted me doesn’t love conferences. “The people at The Idea Camp — they ask questions rather than give easy answers.”  [now that sounds nice] “They’re friendly toward men and … Read More

Why It Matters That He Sees

Why It Matters That He Sees

The angel of the Lord found Hagar near a spring in the desert.  She [Hagar] gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.” When I was five years old I ran away from home … Read More